What constitutes a marriage?
Hi, I found your website today when researching another subject, and then began reading what you teach about divorce and remarriage at this link.
Most of the way down the page, on the last part of number 6, is the following: "Moreover, does it not follow that if an illicit relation involving a married person ends a marriage that illicit relations between single persons constitutes marriage? If not, why not?"
Are you saying that Scripture teaches if two single people (man and woman), who have never been married to anyone, have sexual relations, that they are then married as far as Scripture is concerned?
Example: A single man and single woman, both virgins, neither of whom have ever had sexual relations with anyone before (to remove adultery/remarriage from the equation), have sexual relations. They don't get married, nor did they ever intend to. Each goes on to date other people, and eventually (years later) each gets married to someone.
Are you teaching that the initial union between virgins was a de facto Scriptural marriage, and that any subsequent sexual unions with anyone else was adultery, and that any subsequent (intentional) marriage is an adulterous marriage?
Thank you very much for taking the time to respond.
The language to which you refer was intended to reach the exact opposite conclusion to the question that you raise. The question that was asked was asked to demonstrate the absurdity of the position that some hold that sexual relations between two people actually terminates a marriage, i.e., that it constitutes a divorce. In logic this type of agrument is called reductio ad absurdum, or reduce to the absurd. If a conclusion from an argument can be made absurd by that which must be true if the conclusion is true, that conclusion is thereby falsified. The absurdity of the proposition that illicit sexual relations constitutes a marriage demonstrates the falsity of the position that illicit sexual relations constitute marriage. It is certainly not true that illicit sexual relations constitute a marriage in God’s eyes.
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