PROVERBS- THE COMPANY WE KEEP
January 2, 2005 PM
Sermon Outline
PROV 13:20 & PS 1:1
INTRO: I have no idea the number of times I was admonished by my parents to be careful of the company you keep. And I am positive that Joyce and I used those very same words in the course of our rearing of our children. We do need to be careful of our choice of companions ... of the company we keep. One of the great Old Testament texts on this subject says, Thou shalt not follow a multitude to do evil... (Ex 23:2). That, of course, is the negative side of the subject. There is a positive side, too. I suppose, though, that the positive side of the subject is assumed more than it is verbalized. As I have read through the book of Proverbs I have noticed that the wise writer is concerned about the company one keeps.
1. Do not walk in the company of sinners - 1:10-16
a. we all know that there will be some unavoidable situations
b. we are thrust into their company at school, at work (1 Cor 5:9,10)
c. but we will also be faced with opportunities to walk in the company of sinners by choice ... and this is a very dangerous choice (Prov 24:1,2)
d. the opportunity will be attractive, appealing, enticing
e. we must make the wise and right choice ... and refuse unholy company
f. Eph 2:2,3 - among whom also we all had our conversation... - such people as these have not acknowledged, accepted the same standards as those which govern our lives ... we have no place among them
2. Walk in the company of the wise - 13:20
a. this verse presents us with the two possible companionship choices
b. and it presents us with the consequences of the choice we make
c. for most of my life I have been fortunate to be often in the company of preachers and elders ... and I know that my life has been shaped thereby
d. the truth of this verse is demonstrated over and again in young & old
e. we ask questions; we observe them interacting with people; we see how they address problems; etc. ... and we learn
f. Ps 119:63 & Mal 3:16
3. Do not walk in the company of the angry - 22:24
a. notice v. 25 carefully
b. here is one of the reasons we should be so careful of the company we keep - we tend to learn from our companions!
c. we should avoid the company of a person whose anger is always surfacing
d. anger is the way this person responds, reacts to real life challenges - he probably leaves a trail of broken relationships (his marriage?)
e. you want to learn to be a problem solver - a resolver ... and forgiver
f. I suggest we remember 1 Pet 2:23 as our goal in all situations
4. Do not walk in the company of the intemperate - 23:20,21
a. this is obviously the party crowd - and the party mentality lives for another party (Prov 28:7)
b. theres nothing wrong with a party - if theres nothing wrong at the party! (a little later in the chapter there is a discussion of abstaining from inebriating substances)
c. these verses emphasize a spirit of intemperance - harmful extremes
d. intemperance harms body, character, relationships
e. 2 Pet 1:6 - add...temperance (self control)
f. one of the most difficult things I know is the finding of balance in our lives - a person who is able to maintain balance in all sorts of situations is a person to be admired! remember 1 Cor 9:25 - ...temperate in all things...
5. Do not overstay your welcome in your neighbors home - 25:17
a. Proverbs has a great deal to say about neighbor relationships
b. for example: Prov 27:10 or 3:29
c. it is possible, though, to tread on this beneficial relationship! and this book of wisdom does suggest some of the ways this can be done
d. one way, though, is to presume upon your neighbors time - staying too long
e. certainly we want to be able to visit and to enjoy this special relationship - but do we ever take our neighbors time for granted?
f. we need to be aware of our neighbors needs, what is happening right then and borrow his time accordingly ... leave while he still is enjoying your visit!!
CLOSE: There is a beautiful thought at Rom 15:24 - ...if first I be somewhat filled with your company. The desire to be in the company of good and honorable people is a wholesome desire. There are such wonderful benefits to be found in such company. But remember, too, 1 Cor 15:33.
Cecil A. Hutson
January 2, 2005